Those who run too hard can’t run far
Effort should not be something that needs to be constantly perceived. Willpower is the spiritual energy that will be used up in the short term.
It is not the passion that truly persists in the last, but the right kindness and devotion.
When insistence is no longer a fact that needs to be talked about or steps that need to be rehearsed, it becomes part of our life, not a burden that hangs on top of life.
The longest companionship does not take much effort. If you really love that person and really want to live with him forever, you wouldn’t say how much you love him. Instead, you feel that “every day you’re with him, you’re fine.”
Too hard to love not only makes you tired, but also makes people around you tired.
Simple truth, more able to stand up.
Because you will unconsciously increase your expectations. Do not make a return to the world like a child. Self force and grievance can’t be your chips.
People who are too hard are more likely to have a drop in expectations and are less likely to accept the fact that they are looking in the wrong direction. “Efforts do not return” itself, is a very desperate thing. People who travel lightly will have more room for maneuvering.
The harder a person is, the more he wants to get timely good stimulation. The harder people have a higher demand for positive stimuli, and the more they cannot tolerate temporary negative feedback.
True persistence is attributed to calm, relying on gentle force rather than constant stimulation.
Too much effort increases the power consumption of the implementation. Entangling and choosing fear is a byproduct of too much effort. Just to do it is to reduce the loss of heart caused by conflicts as much as possible between consciousness and action.
The biggest enemies in the implementation phase are tangled, blame, regret, and inner conflict—too hard to use, that is, too many psychological extra actions.
I have been telling myself not to use too much force in order to maintain my insensitivity and unacceptable acceptance of difficulties.
Short-term excessive exertion can easily cause physical and psychological contusions. Even if what you are doing is very important, you must also ensure that you basically rest and relax. Do not allow yourself to consume health to fill the needs of the efforts.
In the end, you will find that although you never think that you really tried hard, but because you go far enough, everyone will think how hard you are.
Hard-hearted people are frustrated and those who really insist on it often feel that “this is good.”
As stated below in the comment
“Work hard all the time”
Postscript: (very long, very casual, very relaxed)
“Exert yourself” is a very interesting topic because it is idealistic and somewhat metaphysical.
Contrary to our instincts, if you often feel that you’re working hard on one thing, it’s very likely that you’re showing what you’re doing with what you’re doing, feeling strong, it’s likely that you don’t like what you’re doing, or What you do bring a lot of discomfort to you. The brain is shouting for help and seeking more positive stimuli.
The body said: “I can’t hold it, I’m quick to self-stimulus!”
This may be a sign that if you can’t reasonably reduce the power consumption of what you do at this time, you can’t keep going in the long run.
Although, we still know very little about self-motivation.
However, this is in line with experience: Those who really learn well do not often feel that they have worked hard, or that the people who have truly stood by rely on habits and are a modest effort that is not perceived. It is not always what external, internal conscious incentives are needed.
Psychologists have found that positive feedback is not a long-term effective method, because it is easy to generate dependence. Once the stimulus source disappears, the specific environment disappears, and the experimenter will return to the original situation.
In other words, self-motivation is effective in temporarily crossing uncomfortable areas, but it is not a long-term strategy. Incentives are like morphine, which can help you overcome the temporary difficulties of the operating table, but can not make you immersed in life without pain.
The danger of chicken soup is that it places too much emphasis on the importance of incentives but does not indicate the unsustainability of incentives.
Successful people may be fortunate, perhaps talented, and their time in crossing uncomfortable areas is greatly reduced, leading to longer-term unconscious high-level behavior.
This is not an inspiration for our efforts:
The ultimate goal of persistence is unconscious behavior, a seamless fusion with life.
Positive stimuli such as self-motivation may need to be used with reasonable care.
More important than motivation is the optimization of the process. Any fool knows to work hard. Only a few people know how to optimize and reduce the exertion.
In the end, you find that you can really stick with it. No one is that you need to be very struggling to stick to it. It takes a lot of struggle to die on the way.
You can of course think that this is an excuse for the loser to find for yourself. You can also think that this is useless chicken soup to let ignorant people indulge in fantasy, but I hope you can really understand my true meaning – only really accept the heart Uncomfortable, accepting the fact that you need to rest now, you will calm down and calmly walk out of the first step of change.